Personally, I hate when I’m told that. Is it true that some people think more than others? Of course not. But some of us ruminate, worry, over-analyze or simply are more sensitive than others. I see this a lot with people with ADHD and frankly, I can be described as being that type of thinker as well. I’d much rather call this an ability to think intuitively and deeply. We seem to be able to feel, think and see all the different angles of things. And sometimes yes, to the point of distress.
But to tell someone that they think “too much” is to me, a form of criticism. And we know that many people with ADHD are super sensitive already to criticism, partly because we’ve had way too much of that our whole lives, and partly because, we’re….wired differently, making us super aware in certain ways while super unaware in other ways. But most of us seem to carry the gene of being able to sniff out criticism in seemingly innocent remarks and body language.
How about you? Do people say this about you? What are your thoughts about it? Please share in the Comment section below.
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Can you smell it? The change in the air? The cooler nights? The mall madness of parents buying clothes and school supplies for their kiddos?
We all know how hard it is to get kids, especially kids with ADD, back on track with school schedules, but it’s also hard on adults, even if you don’t have children at home. And it’s even harder if you have ADHD. Why?
ADD adults (and kids, of course) typically have a hard time with transitions in general. It’s hard to stop reading emails to start making dinner. It’s hard leaving a lunch break to get back to work.
And it’s hard to switch out of the laid back summers into the briskness that fall seems to bring.
7 Tips to Help you Transition into Fall
If you’ve been staying up later than normal, slowly reel yourself back into an earlier bedtime. Don’t take a big leap, though- go to bed 15 minutes earlier for a week, then add more time as needed.
Don’t stop your exercise routine just because it’s getting- or about to- get colder.
Summer often means sliding out of a healthy diet. Vacations, weddings, lazy weekends…it’s easy to eat junk. With kids at home and lots of summer functions behind you, it’s time to get back into a healthier eating groove.
End of summer often brings on some sadness or even a mild depression. The days are getting shorter and winter isn’t far behind. I’ve personally found that taking Vitamin D has been a godsend for my blah winter blues/ SAD. Some find that SAD lights work wonders as well- like this one.
Set new goals for yourself. Want to learn a new language? Take up an instrument? Check out the classes available to you at adult education classes or at your local college. Most libraries also offer these options.
Fall is a great time to de-clutter. Need help? Join my Queen of Distraction online group coaching program. Hint: I’m running a special at 20% off, so now’s the time to join! www.QueensOfDistraction.com
Pull together your summer memories by making a memory book of photographs or writing a blog about your summer. Collages are fun and you can engage the entire family. Not your thing? Consider collecting all your summer digital photos and have them made into a book using a software program or by sending the out to an online service or local photography shop. (or jump into a last minute vacation!)?????
If you’re like me, saying goodbye to summer is tough. In fact, I HATE winters, so the way I deal with this transition is to re-frame my dislike for winter by planning out various creative projects so that it’s not as difficult to be indoors for months at a time.
What can you do to make your transition easier? Please share your thoughts in the Comment section below.
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Ok, so it wasn’t just my ADHD; luck also played a big part of getting invited onstage last week by Paul McCartney at his Grand Rapids, Michigan (phenomenal) concert.
But I think it helped. Why?
People with ADHD tend to think outside the box. I knew that in order to get Paul’s attention (more about WHY later), I had to have a sign that stood out from the rest.
People with ADHD can be comfortable being different. It can take a lot of years to feel comfortable in your ADHD “skin”, but I walk, talk and breathe ADHD, so it didn’t even occur to me that doing this was odd or brave. Being different is what got me on stage.
People with ADHD tend to be creative and have lots of interests. We don’t have much research to prove that, but I see it all the time in my nearly 20 years of working with adults with ADHD. I work with musicians, artists, media types, writers, etc.
Dr. Ned Hallowell says, “Creativity is impulsivity gone right.
Being creative is the norm for me- I write, I play guitar/piano/bass/guitar and sing. I am also an artist. Figuring out how to meet Paul forced me to use my creative juices.
People with ADHD are often risk takers. I’m not hyperactive or overtly impulsive, but…I was willing to let myself be vulnerable and look silly in front of 18,000 people. And thousands more who read the local papers and read my social media posts. As it turned out, I got hundreds of emails and messages from people, congratulating me!
People with ADHD tend to hyper focus on things that interest them. Getting on that stage to meet Paul was my focus and I did everything in my power to make it happen.
And it worked.
Continue reading below the video.
Why, though? Why was this so important to me? People have asked me- why did I go to such extremes to meet a former Beatle?
The world changed for me and millions of others when The Beatles performed live on the Ed Sullivan Show. The timing couldn’t have been better for me. As a child, my young father had unexpectedly and suddenly passed away just four months before I saw the four mop tops perform on TV. President Kennedy- a father figure to me and many others- was assassinated only three weeks after my father died. I lost two grandparents the following year. I was a child numbed by loss and confused about her world
Then The Beatles came and distracted me from my grief and fear. By the age of 12, I was hopelessly in love with Paul McCartney. The “cute Beatle” – the one always laughing, jumping around- the optimist with a playful gleam in his eye- the complete opposite of what I was living- became my salve and salvation. Because of The Beatles, I wanted to learn their songs, and took up a number of instruments to help calm my shattered nerves and help heal my soul.
The Beatles got me through a whole lot of tough early years.
After many attempts at meeting Paul onstage, last week’s efforts taught me some good lessons:
Never lose sight of your dreams. Be ok with being different. Let your creativity go wild. And hyper focus on those 60 seconds of being face to face with your idol.
How about you? Have you had a dream come true? Did your ADHD help make that happen? Please post your experiences in the Comment section below.
PS: Want to see the video of me meeting my idol? Check it out HERE.
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I just wanted to say every time I get one of your messages, it resonates so deeply that I usually have some kind of emotional response! I feel like another little bit of me has been unburdened knowing there are others who are so very like me. The relief that comes with that knowledge is wonderful, but it also sort of knocks me off-balance. :) Anyway, thank you! I'm off to make my very own special to-do list right now! - Emily D