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7 Tips to Cope with End of Summer Blues- ADD Style

Posted on August 24, 2015



What happened? After waiting 9+ months, summer finally arrived. I couldn’t wait to get my jogging shoes back on and enjoy the more laid back days, many spent at our little cottage in Canada.

As I write this, I’m lying on a futon with the windows wide open, listening to birds, crickets and Lake Huron waves hitting the beach. My ADHHHD kiddo is fast asleep (I’d better hurry, because that will end way too soon) and hubby will also rise soon, looking for another Mr. fix-it job to take on at Chez Matlen.

It’s late August now and…what is that I feel in my throat? It’s a lump. A lump of sadness that our brief Michigan summer is about to end. The days are already getting shorter and my carefree days have already morphed into deadlines for fall projects.

As a woman with ADHD, there’s a very good chance that you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, or some other lovely “add-on” that creates more baggage for you. For me, thinking about winter has always been difficult- and I have SAD to boot (Seasonal Affective Disorder). I hate, I mean I really HATE winter.

And I’m guessing many of you do, as well.

I’ve found some solutions that have been extremely helpful to me. And I’d like to share them with you right now.


How to Ease the Transition from Summer to Winter and Kill Those Winter Blues


  1. Think of indoor activities you enjoy and start preparing for them. For me, it’s making art in my studio. Since my studio is in my basement, I can’t get myself down there in the summer, because I crave sunshine and the outdoors. Now, instead of ruminating over the upcoming change in season, I put a positive spin to it and remind myself that my “creative” months are coming up soon. It’s a total re-frame that helps me a lot.
  1. Vitamin D3. My doctor recommended this for bone health, but I discovered that my SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) improved greatly. Who knew? Give it a try.
  1. Get out of town! To help survive winter, we head to Florida every winter for vacation. Start saving and planning now.
  1. Get the cozy going. Think about hot chocolate, holidays (if that doesn’t stress you out, that is), cozy PJs and hearty meals.
  1. Remember that we still have fall. Personally, I hate fall because it means winter is right behind. But many love the fall colors and crispness in the air. Plan your pumpkin patch or apple cider excursions.
  1. Force yourself to learn a winter sport. Honestly? It didn’t work for me because I dread the cold, but maybe you’d like to try ice-skating or cross country skiing.
  1. Hey now! Summer isn’t over yet, so…drink up each delicious day and make the best of what we have left. Then again, many of you may HATE summer (it does wonders for hot flashes, doesn’t it?) but if you’re like me, treasure each day that is over 60 degrees.

How about you? Do you detest winter like I do? If so, how do you manage? What can you think or do differently to make the transition easier for you?
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ADD School Summit Starts Tomorrow (Aug. 24, 2015)

Posted on August 23, 2015

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Starting tomorrow (Monday, August 24, 2015)!

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8 Ways to Stop Tormenting Yourself

Posted on August 10, 2015

Unhappy Woman


“I can’t stop blurting out things. I’m such a loser”

“Why can’t I get started on that project for work? The boss will realize I’m not competent and will fire me”

“I can’t have people over- my house is a total wreck. What is wrong with me??”

I talk to women with ADD every day that have negative tapes playing in their head- sometimes 24/7- who feel like complete failures because they can’t keep up with the rest of the world, or because they make ADD faux pas, and more. They begin to identify themselves as people who can’t measure up, period. They accept the negativity some people throw at them, mainly friends, relatives, bosses and co-workers who have no clue about ADD- and they begin to believe what they hear.

Does that sound like you?

After years and years of living with (usually untreated) ADD, this can certainly take a toll on you until you get to the point of not even wanting to socialize, make new friends, or even attempt to get a job better suited to your abilities- hey, it’s much safer to hide behind the Wall of Shame and avoid anything that might hurt your already battered self-esteem.

Don’t give up hope.

8 ways to stop tormenting yourself with negative self-talk


  1. Realize and accept that ADD is a medical condition, not a character flaw. Accept who you are instead of rejecting that part of yourself, which is biologically based.
  2. Rejecting your ADD challenges is rejecting you. You may not be able to get rid of all of them, but you surely can learn new strategies and get help from a professional who understands how your ADD impacts you.
  3. Instead of clobbering yourself over the head over every ADD -related challenge, recognize your own uniqueness in a positive way. Move immediately into a mental image of what you do well instead of obsessing over what trips you up.
  4. Honor your differences. Do you really want to be like everyone else?
  5. Hang out with people who accept and support you.
  6. Stop trying so hard to fit in. Our finest thinkers, artists, musicians stand out; they don’t blend in
  7. Instead of being critical of yourself, spend time on strategizing solutions. Problems with being late to work? Break your mornings down into 15 minute increments- write each step- and follow them every morning.
  8. Listen to the criticism of others as an opportunity to explore change and solutions and self-discovery. Use criticism as a doorway towards something positive instead of negative. If there’s a pattern, maybe it’s time to get professional help. Often, an ADD coach is just the ticket you need to learn new strategies for areas of challenge.

Are you ready to make the move from negative to positive? What do you plan to change about yourself right now?

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