Posted on March 24, 2017
Calm Down!? This will Help!
Occasionally, I like to share interesting and helpful resources that I think will be of value to my readers. This is one of them!
You know how much I love fidgets and how they help with stress, anxiety and taming hyperactivity/impulsivity, allowing you (or your child) to focus better. Well, I just discovered this brand new fidget: the Stress Fidget Cube. The company is offering a special introductory offer to my readers (you): 5% discount and free shipping on all orders.
** Use coupon code WINADD when ordering to get your discount and free shipping.
Check it out at www.stressfidgetcube.com .
Posted on March 23, 2017
About a week ago, we lost our power. With temperatures going down into the teens, it wasn’t a fun situation to be in. From experience of living in Michigan almost all my life, I knew this one could be a tortuous situation lasting days. And it did. Once power came back on, we were faced with a fridge and freezer filled with food that had to be tossed. I’m not a fan of food poisoning and didn’t want to take any chances- it all had to go.
Imagine my surprise (not) when I found packages in the freezer labeled 2015- and some even older than that. Time to roll up my sleeves. But as I thought more about this, I realized that by being a freezer hoarder, I had used up precious space for items I’d probably never re-heat or cook. I mean- “Cowboy Lasagna?” Complete with crystals in the plastic baggie!
So…I started my research and found some great ideas online. Some are not ADD friendly, so don’t even attempt the tips that you know won’t work for you. But here are some good ones: Organize Your Freezer.
For starters, try dry erase crayons to label your containers. You can find them here.
Don’t wait until you can’t fit more food into your freezer or if you have a power outage. Clear out the unneeded stuff today! Need help getting motivated? Join me and the queens at the Queens of Distraction! Spring special savings end soon! Join me today at www.QueensOfDistraction.com.
Posted on March 05, 2017
Whenever my newsletter goes out, a small handful of people cancel their subscription. (Please don’t get any ideas!) In the unsubscribe box, I encourage my readers to tell me why they’ve decided to leave, as their comments help me to improve my newsletters. Recently, as I was looking over their responses, most said they simply didn’t have time to read a newsletter. But then, one popped out and slapped me in the face. It said: “Too long-winded with nothing helpful to say.”
As I cringed, I wanted right then and there to shut down my newsletter. It felt like a knife through the heart. But then I scraped myself off the floor and began to think. Why would that one little comment affect me so deeply? I’ve been in this field for over 20 years, published two books, present throughout the country… yet I can still feel shattered when I read or hear criticisms about myself.
I don’t think I’m alone. People with ADD, especially, have tender, sensitive hearts. Many of us have heard criticisms from the day we started Kindergarten (Susie doesn’t pay attention. Emily won’t share her toys, etc.). And many more of us heard things for many years after that from parents, teachers, partners, friends, bosses and others who reprimanded us for one ADD related behavior after another.
As adults, we carry those hurtful words with us into our marriage, our jobs and professions and into our parenting roles, as well:
- Your room/house/office is a mess
- Why don’t you just try harder?
Dr. William Dodson talks about something he calls “Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria”- a perception- not necessarily the reality- that a person has been rejected, teased, or criticized by important people in their lives.
He talked more about this in depth at the recent ADHD Women’s Palooza (http://adhdpalooza.com/2017-replays/) and in an ADDitude Magazine article.
In a nutshell, he feels this is a common piece seen in ADHD. And I agree. But why? Dodson suggests this is part of how an ADHD brain work. But to take it a bit further…..
We aren’t just too sensitive; we are re-acting to statements and criticisms we’ve heard all of our lives. Add to that a real sensitivity I do see in many with ADHD: being unusually compassionate to others, plus having hypersensitivities to stimuli (including emotional)…and we’re headed for constant crashes like I had with the newsletter comment.
What we can do to counteract these experiences is to remember where we are most vulnerable. Did you hear hurtful things about your ADD related behaviors when you were growing up? Pinpoint what those comments were and see how they might still affect you now, as an adult.
Focus on your strengths, your abilities. I don’t know how to roast a turkey, but I can play a bass guitar.
And listen to the criticisms to see if there might be something you might learn from them instead of reacting so deeply. In my case, this woman was right: my newsletters do tend to be a bit wordy. So this time, I will end here at 400 words instead of 1400+. <smile>
Dr. Dodson also suggests medication for extreme cases.
What do you think? Do you feel you are over-sensitive at times? Why? How do you deal with that? Share your thoughts in the Comment section below.