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Turn Off the TV! Get off of Facebook! ADHD and Political PTSD

Posted on October 16, 2016



This election season has me worn out. Since a lot of my work involves being on social media, the endless articles, videos and bantering has me on edge. Heck, more than being on edge- I feel slammed and shaken to my core. It’s not important to discuss here which candidate I support, but my stress has hit the zenith level to the point where it feels like Political PSTD (post traumatic stress syndrome). I can’t get away from it. Fear is in the air. Who will win? What will happen?

Having ADHD is a bit like PTSD as well and we know that many with ADHD also have PTSD, for a number of reasons that I won’t get into here.

With ADHD often comes hypersensitivity, hyper arousal, ruminating and obsessive thinking and well…just plain worrying.

Life can be hard enough just finding our toothbrush in the morning and our slippers at night. Though we DO need to educate ourselves so we can choose the candidate that reflects our core interests, concerns and more, we also have to take a step back and get untangled from the mess we are watching on the news and other media.

I have vowed to read fewer posts and articles about the election unless it pertains to just facts and other information I need to keep up with the basics.

How about you? Are you feeling overwhelmed? What can you do to help calm yourself down? Please share your thoughts in the Comment section, below.


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ADHD Grows Up: ADHD in Women

Posted on October 07, 2016

Journalist Pam Houghton of Neighborhood SEEN Magazine,  wrote this great article on adults with ADHD, with a focus on women with ADHD and includes quotes by me and my colleague Sari Solden. Read it at seen-magazine-oct-2016adhd-grows-up or click on the photo below to read the full article.





Super Cool ADHD Events Coming Your Way- Now!

Posted on October 03, 2016



October is ADHD Awareness Month. Some of us in the field worked hard years ago to make this happen. The Cliffs Notes version is that in 2004, Dr. Michele Novotini spearheaded this project along with David Giwerc and Evelyn Green, who were able to get Congress to pass US Resolution 390. Back then, it was a one-day event, but through their efforts, it was soon revised to be a monthly event, held each October.

To celebrate how far we’ve come in the field of ADHD, I’m dedicating this post to share with you just some of the many events going on this month. Plus loads of resources. Just for you! Never stop learning and getting support!



Tara McGillicuddy of ADDclasses continues her annual tradition of offering up the exciting ADHD Expo. Top experts in the world are presenting on all kinds of ADD related topics.

I will be presenting on Why is My ADHD Getting Worse? Tips and Insights for Women with ADHD.” The event runs from October 2-8 and you’ll be able to hear my session on Saturday, Oct. 8 at 11am EST. I’ll be there to answer your questions, too! Registration is FREE! So sign up now at

Announcing the “soft launch” of my new service: ADD SOS





This one – of – a kind service allows you to contact me online, live, when you are in need of immediate support for your ADHD related challenges.

  • Can’t get started on paying your bills and need some guidance?
  • Have company coming in 2 hours and your house needs de-cluttering?
  • Need to buy holiday gifts but feel like you’ve been hit by a stun gun? 

I will help you figure out how to dig out of the “ADD Hole” with pragmatic, supportive suggestions, guidance and tips. Let’s get through this together!

Go to and check the health cross icon to see when I’m online and available to you.


As part of ADHD Awareness Month, ADDA has created TADD Talks, where they will be talking about ADD every day the entire month of October! ADDA has called on some of the most recognized experts in adults ADHD to speak on adult ADHD to share their expertise with you.

I will be presenting on Women with ADHD on October 24.   

More information on the ADDA site HERE


If you’re in the Ann Arbor/Detroit area, join me Wednesday October 5th for the Ann Arbor local ADHD Awareness Month event at the downtown library. Sari Solden and Dr. Michele Frank will be joined by other local ADHD experts including Regina Carey, Dr. Geraldine Markel, Doug Harris, Susan Hunsberger and me!  It’s free and we promise to make it fun, easy, and enjoyable! We hope to see you there! More information HERE .





To celebrate ADHD Awareness Month, I am offering 20% off the already affordable membership fee! There’s no reason not to join at these low, low prices.  Join me online and get your “stuff” and life in order. De-clutter with me! Sign up at


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Terry in the News

I was interviewed recently by a few magazines:


US World and News Report interviewed me for their article, Understanding ADHD in Women.

Read it HERE


ADDitude Magazine and Broadly: ‘I Thought I Was Stupid’: The Hidden Struggle for Women with ADHD

Read it HERE


In ParentMap Magazine: When Parents Have ADHD

Read it HERE




Where’s Terry? MORE Resources For You!



A Facebook group for Moms with ADHD! Check it out at

And did you know I have a very active Facebook group for Women with ADHD? Join me there at

Plus you’ll find articles and other resources at my ADD Facebook page at


Looking for books on women with ADHD? Check them out at Amazon HERE

ADHD Awareness Expo October 2-8, 2016- Join Me!

Posted on September 30, 2016


You won’t want to miss this! Join me and other top ADHD experts at the 7th Annual ADHD Awareness Expo! My topic is “Why is My ADHD Getting Worse? Tips and Insights for Women with ADHD.” The event runs from October 2-8 and you’ll be able to hear my session on Saturday, Oct. 8 at 11am EST. I’ll be there to answer your questions, too! Registration is FREE! So sign up now at

Do You “Think Too Much?”

Posted on September 17, 2016



How many times have you heard this one:

“You think too much.”

Personally, I hate when I’m told that. Is it true that some people think more than others? Of course not. But some of us ruminate, worry, over-analyze or simply are more sensitive than others. I see this a lot with people with ADHD and frankly, I can be described as being that type of thinker as well. I’d much rather call this an ability to think intuitively and deeply. We seem to be able to feel, think and see all the different angles of things. And sometimes yes, to the point of distress.

But to tell someone that they think “too much” is to me, a form of criticism. And we know that many people with ADHD are super sensitive already to criticism, partly because we’ve had way too much of that our whole lives, and partly because, we’re….wired differently, making us super aware in certain ways while super unaware in other ways. But most of us seem to carry the gene of being able to sniff out criticism in seemingly innocent remarks and body language.

How about you? Do people say this about you? What are your thoughts about it? Please share in the Comment section below.

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7 Tips for Transitioning Into Fall with ADD

Posted on September 02, 2016



Can you smell it? The change in the air? The cooler nights? The mall madness of parents buying clothes and school supplies for their kiddos?

We all know how hard it is to get kids, especially kids with ADD, back on track with school schedules, but it’s also hard on adults, even if you don’t have children at home. And it’s even harder if you have ADHD. Why? 

ADD adults (and kids, of course) typically have a hard time with transitions in general. It’s hard to stop reading emails to start making dinner. It’s hard leaving a lunch break to get back to work.

And it’s hard to switch out of the laid back summers into the briskness that fall seems to bring.


             7 Tips to Help you Transition into Fall


  1. If you’ve been staying up later than normal, slowly reel yourself back into an earlier bedtime. Don’t take a big leap, though- go to bed 15 minutes earlier for a week, then add more time as needed.
  1. Don’t stop your exercise routine just because it’s getting- or about to- get colder.
  1. Summer often means sliding out of a healthy diet. Vacations, weddings, lazy weekends…it’s easy to eat junk. With kids at home and lots of summer functions behind you, it’s time to get back into a healthier eating groove.
  1. End of summer often brings on some sadness or even a mild depression. The days are getting shorter and winter isn’t far behind. I’ve personally found that taking Vitamin D has been a godsend for my blah winter blues/ SAD. Some find that SAD lights work wonders as well- like this one.
  1. Set new goals for yourself. Want to learn a new language? Take up an instrument? Check out the classes available to you at adult education classes or at your local college. Most libraries also offer these options.
  1. Fall is a great time to de-clutter. Need help? Join my Queen of Distraction online group coaching program. Hint: I’m running a special at 20% off, so now’s the time to join!
  1. Pull together your summer memories by making a memory book of photographs or writing a blog about your summer. Collages are fun and you can engage the entire family. Not your thing? Consider collecting all your summer digital photos and have them made into a book using a software program or by sending the out to an online service or local photography shop. (or jump into a last minute vacation!)?????


If you’re like me, saying goodbye to summer is tough. In fact, I HATE winters, so the way I deal with this transition is to re-frame my dislike for winter by planning out various creative projects so that it’s not as difficult to be indoors for months at a time.

What can you do to make your transition easier? Please share your thoughts in the Comment section below.


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How Having ADHD Helped Me Get On Stage With Paul McCartney

Posted on August 22, 2016

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Ok, so it wasn’t just my ADHD; luck also played a big part of getting invited onstage last week by Paul McCartney at his Grand Rapids, Michigan (phenomenal) concert.

But I think it helped. Why?

People with ADHD tend to think outside the box. I knew that in order to get Paul’s attention (more about WHY later), I had to have a sign that stood out from the rest.

People with ADHD can be comfortable being different. It can take a lot of years to feel comfortable in your ADHD “skin”, but I walk, talk and breathe ADHD, so it didn’t even occur to me that doing this was odd or brave. Being different is what got me on stage.

People with ADHD tend to be creative and have lots of interests. We don’t have much research to prove that, but I see it all the time in my nearly 20 years of working with adults with ADHD. I work with musicians, artists, media types, writers, etc.


Dr. Ned Hallowell says, “Creativity is impulsivity gone right.


Being creative is the norm for me- I write, I play guitar/piano/bass/guitar and sing. I am also an artist. Figuring out how to meet Paul forced me to use my creative juices.

People with ADHD are often risk takers. I’m not hyperactive or overtly impulsive, but…I was willing to let myself be vulnerable and look silly in front of 18,000 people. And thousands more who read the local papers and read my social media posts. As it turned out, I got hundreds of emails and messages from people, congratulating me!

People with ADHD tend to hyper focus on things that interest them. Getting on that stage to meet Paul was my focus and I did everything in my power to make it happen.

And it worked.

Continue reading below the video.

Why, though? Why was this so important to me? People have asked me- why did I go to such extremes to meet a former Beatle?

The world changed for me and millions of others when The Beatles performed live on the Ed Sullivan Show. The timing couldn’t have been better for me. As a child, my young father had unexpectedly and suddenly passed away just four months before I saw the four mop tops perform on TV. President Kennedy- a father figure to me and many others- was assassinated only three weeks after my father died. I lost two grandparents the following year. I was a child numbed by loss and confused about her world

Then The Beatles came and distracted me from my grief and fear. By the age of 12, I was hopelessly in love with Paul McCartney. The “cute Beatle” – the one always laughing, jumping around- the optimist with a playful gleam in his eye- the complete opposite of what I was living- became my salve and salvation. Because of The Beatles, I wanted to learn their songs, and took up a number of instruments to help calm my shattered nerves and help heal my soul.

The Beatles got me through a whole lot of tough early years.

After many attempts at meeting Paul onstage, last week’s efforts taught me some good lessons:

Never lose sight of your dreams. Be ok with being different. Let your creativity go wild. And hyper focus on those 60 seconds of being face to face with your idol.

How about you? Have you had a dream come true? Did your ADHD help make that happen? Please post your experiences in the Comment section below.

PS: Want to see the video of me meeting my idol? Check it out HERE.


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8 Tips for Surviving Your ADHD Summer Vacation

Posted on August 05, 2016

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It may be August, but many families are still planning their summer vacation.If that includes you, read on!

Adults with ADHD have a notoriously difficult time dealing with transitions, even good ones. Going on vacation means switching out of work mode to days of nonstructured, free time. At work, you typically know what’s expected of you, and at home, you and your partner keep the whole family on schedule and manage all the details of daily life. When you’re on vacation, you’re still to trying to “manage”—but without the routine—and the change can be unnerving. What time should you wake up? When do you eat lunch? What do you do with all your free time? Read? Hike? Swim? Your hyperactive brain is searching, but it no longer has a road map to guide you.

Your ADHD brain needs to focus on something. It craves stimulation. If you’re an inattentive type, you may go more inward, but you still need something to focus on outwardly, like writing, painting or some other quiet activity. If it doesn’t find some sort of focus, it can succumb to negative thinking, such as ruminating, worrying, or obsessing. 

Then just as you’ve settled into vacation bliss, it’s time to transition back to work and home, thereby stirring up the anxiety pot again. It seems that you just can’t win. The good news is that there are a few things you can do to help make your transition into summer go more smoothly. 


 8 Tips for Transitioning into Summer Vacation


1. Be sure your vacation matches your temperament. If you are drawn to excitement, go for high-adrenaline activities. If you crave solitude and tranquility, consider peaceful surroundings with quiet activities. Try to balance your active time versus kick-back time. 

2. If possible, plan ahead so that you don’t have a massive heap of work waiting for you when you return to work. This might mean taking on a bit more work before heading off on vacation.

3. Remember that though you’ve left your home and work behind, you’re still traveling with your ADHD brain. You need to take into account that change can be difficult. Few adults with ADHD will admit that taking vacations can sometimes cause more stress than staying at home: There’s the planning, packing, traveling, settling in… all things that may be difficult. There’s the expectation that you are going on vacation to have fun, so when you find yourself struggling to switch out of work mode into vacation mode, don’t beat yourself up. Be patient and give it some time. 

4. Plan ahead. Before heading out to your destination, make a list of things you’d like to do once you arrive. This added structure will prevent you from letting the days fly by without a plan and will help minimize potential anxiety and/or depression. Be sure to include downtime in your schedule! 

5. Acknowledge that it may take you more time than it takes others to transition. Let your body gradually get used to the time and rhythm change.

6. Try to keep certain things consistent, like sleep schedules and mealtimes. These can be your constants to help keep you grounded. 

7. Build in other routines throughout the day, such as a walk after lunch.

8. Coming home is yet another transition, so be easy on yourself. Upon returning home after vacation, ease back into it. Don’t plan any big events or important meetings as soon as you return. Allow yourself to gradually get back into your routine the first few days back home.

Following these tips should ensure an easy transition to and from vacation so that you can enjoy your time off to the fullest.



MORE of My Favorite ADD Picks

Posted on July 30, 2016

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New Top Picks from Terry

Most popular label


#1 on Amazon!
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Wakey Alarm Clock


Progressively gets louder/light dims automatically- great for deep sleepers
Check it out HERE


Portable Scanner


Digitalize your paper to remove clutter
Check it out HERE

Best Purse Organizer


Organize your purse!
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The Queen of Distraction- my book


What do you mean, you don’t have my book!?
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Vibration keeps you on task
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I Read the News Today, Oh Boy

Posted on July 27, 2016

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There have been some excellent articles published recently that I’d like to share with you today, plus a surprise or two. Keep reading.  


1. often interviews me for their ADD related pieces. Check out this new article, “Adult ADHD: 5 Tips for Managing Technology So It Doesn’t Manage You”, by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. If you’re looking for apps to help tame your ADHD, you’ll find em’ in this article. Read it HERE.

2. ‘I Thought I Was Stupid’: The Hidden Struggle for Women with ADHD, by Maria Yagoda is extremely interesting. Maria attended Sari Solden’s and Dr. Michelle Frank’s recent ADHD Women’s Fest that was held near Ann Arbor, Michigan. What I like is how vulnerable she allowed herself to be, sharing some very personal feelings she’s had about her own life with ADHD. Read it HERE.  

** For those of you in the Ann Arbor area, Sari and Michelle are offering a 2nd event- a 3 – hour workshop- on August 6. It’sa chance to reconnect, rebuild and reflect on experiences shared by women with ADHD. Renew your commitment to living well and empowered with ADHD in a comfortable, intimate setting. This is a small, intimate event with very limited space, so register today HERE.  


And before I lose your attention- keep your eyes open for a big announcement from me. I’m launching a brand new service….well…actually, I’m re-launching a new and improved program called ADD SOS. Here are some secret tidbits to keep you waiting with baited breath for the details:  

  • They will be impulsive, er…spontaneous one of a kind, one- hour sessions. You’ll not always know when they will pop up (sort of like Pokémon Go). So watch for emails and messages from me (best to like my Facebook page at )
  • They will be fun!
  • You will get things DONE- with ME. (Hint: Sick of your cluttered purse?)
  • Best of all, they will be so affordable, you will laugh in my face.

  (Stay tuned)


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