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Contest Winners Announced!

Posted on March 16, 2018

Enter to win

There were many of you who entered my contest but look who won!

1st Place: Emily B

Emily wins my eWorkbook BUNDLE, which includes the Clutter Crusher Toolkit, Medical Records Toolkit, and the Space Organizer Toolkit. That’s THREE eWorkbooks!

2nd Place: Kine S

Kine wins my Clutter Crusher Toolkit eWorkbook

Winners will be notified this week by email.

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Yes, You CAN Advocate for Yourself: Here are Some Tips, by Sandy Maynard, MS

Posted on March 02, 2018

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Please enjoy this guest article, written by Sandy Maynard, MS, a pioneer in the field of ADHD coaching and a friend for many years. 

Many of us have a really tough time standing up for ourselves and making sure our ADD needs are met. Sandy gives us some insight into how she manages her self-advocacy skills. Enjoy!


Yes, You CAN Advocate for Yourself: Here are Some Tips


In general, I believe that women have a harder time than men when advocating for themselves. As someone who helps others speak up for themselves, I have to ‘walk the talk’ myself and often it’s not that easy. I worry about sounding ‘bossy’ or ‘controlling’, but find that if I am gentle and kind when doing so, it is well received.   One of the biggest challenges for me is my own processing speed when calling technical support for help. I often have to interrupt the technician giving me directions and request that they slow down and repeat instructions. Frequently I need to take notes, so I say, “I’m taking notes for future reference. Would you repeat what you just said a little slower?” Each time I interrupt, I make sure I thank them for their patience.

It’s embarrassing to admit, but I also can’t pay attention to my GPS, read road signs, and change lanes while others are talking to me when driving on unfamiliar roads. I say to others before heading out on a trip, “I’m not familiar with the route we are taking today, so my full attention is going to be on the road. And when the GPS is telling me there is a turn coming up, I’m afraid that I wont be much of a conversationalist, especially if I have to merge into a different lane.”

We live in a busy world where it seems like everyone is rushing and wants you to hurry and get out of their way, especially in a grocery store check-out line. Over the years I can’t tell you how many credit cards I’ve lost because I felt rushed by the cashier who has starting ringing up the next order before I’ve put my credit card back in my wallet where it belongs. I no longer scurry just because someone else is in a hurry. I stand my ground firmly and take as much time as I need to put my card away, make sure I have my phone if I laid it on the counter, and that my backpack is zipped so nothing falls out.

Self-advocacy skills are something that we all need to manage our ADHD well. I have found that I don’t need to be bossy or loud to advocate well for what I need in order to manage my own ADHD; I just need to identify what my needs are and ask for what I need.


Sandy Maynard, MS is a pioneer in the field of ADHD coaching and has established herself as one of the country’s preeminent coaches. She specializes in time management and organization and is a regular contributor to ADDitude magazine. Sandy recently moved to Chelsea, MA and now provides coaching and organizing services in the Greater Boston area.

Sandy Maynard, MS


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Contest! Win a Bundle of my eWorkbooks on Organizing Your Home

Posted on March 02, 2018

Enter to win


Who wants to win a prize?? Who doesn’t??

Listen up: Go to my contest page a or click on the graphic above to enter my contest, which starts NOW. All you need to do is answer one short (easy) question and I will draw two winners who answer it correctly.


1. FIRST PRIZE: My eWorkbook bundle, which includes the Clutter Crusher Toolkit, Medical Records Toolkit, and the Space Organizer Toolkit. That’s THREE eWorkbooks!

2. SECOND PRIZE: My Clutter Crusher Toolkit eWorkbook.

Click HERE to enter! 

Good luck to all!

(contest ends March 15. One entry per person).



Join me on Dr. Ned Hallowell’s Podcast: Parts 1 and 2 on Women with ADHD

Posted on February 21, 2018

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My dear friend, Dr. Ned Hallowell, invited me as his guest two weeks in a row, on his fabulous podcast,Distraction“, where we talked about Women with ADHD and answered listeners’ questions.

Click here for Part 1:
Click here for Part 2:

What did we talk about?

Part 1: Hormones, toxic relationships, social isolation and much more, including lots of Q/A.

Part 2:
Diagnosis, depression, migraines, estrogen levels, executive function, chemotherapy, and heightened sensitivities.

…..and more Q/A!

WHEN? Anytime!
Online on Ned’s Distraction Podcast.

Click the links below to listen:

Part l:
Part 2:

Moms with ADHD Reveal Lessons They’ve Learned in Handling Parenting Challenges

Posted on February 20, 2018



Often, I’m interviewed for articles at This latest one talks about parenting issues when mom has ADHD:

You’re a mom who has ADHD, and you’re in the thick of mothering. Maybe you’re in the thick of toddlerhood, besieged by big tantrums and bleary-eyed after one-too-many sleepless nights. Maybe you’re in the thick of adolescence, trying to traverse schedules and emotional roller coasters. Maybe you have several kids, and find yourself frustrated and stressed out over all the logistics.

Maybe none of the above describes your situation. But you still feel utterly inadequate and unsure and panicked that you’re parenting all wrong.

You’re not alone.

Continue reading at the PsychCentral site HERE

Who Is the Real You?

Posted on February 17, 2018

The real you

Cut Clutter: Ask Yourself This One Question

Posted on February 17, 2018


Join me on Dr. Ned Hallowell’s Podcast on Women with ADHD!

Posted on February 13, 2018

Terry Matlen Dr Ned Hallowell

Join me on Dr. Ned Hallowell’s podcast, “Distraction!”


My dear friend, Dr. Ned Hallowell, recently invited me to chat with him and answer (excellent) questions from women with ADHD.

What did we talk about? In the first of two series, we chatted and answered questions, including:

  • How women’s changing hormones affect ADHD symptoms
  • Why some women with ADHD find themselves in toxic “train wreck” relationships
  • Why some women are isolated socially and what you can do about it

…..and more!

WHEN? Anytime!
WHERE? Online on Ned’s “Distraction” Podcast.

Click HERE to listen.




Posted on February 05, 2018



Palooza Long Banner


Want to be part of changing the way the world looks at women with ADHD? You can! My colleague and co-founder of the Palooza, Linda Roggli, has developed a ground-breaking online event and you are invited!  

The Third Annual ADHD Women’s Palooza begins February 5th, and runs through February 10, 2018. It will be an extraordinary week of insight and answers exclusively for women with ADHD, presented by 33 ADHD Legends and Luminaries including: Dr. Ned Hallowell, Sari Solden, Dr. Thomas E. Brown, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, and many more…

Don’t miss my session! 

What: Scratchy, Loud, Bright, Tight: Sensory Overload & ADHD

When: Wednesday, Feb. 7 at 12 noon EST.

Find out more and  register here!


10 Tips for Parents of ADHD Kids: How to Keep your Marriage Healthy and Alive

Posted on February 02, 2018


Raising a child with ADHD or other special challenges puts a strain in even the most stable of marriages. Recent studies show that such marriages are at a higher risk of ending in divorce.

All relationships and marriages require diligent work and open communication in order to survive and stay healthy. But add children with ADHD or other special needs and those requirements become paramount in keeping the marriage alive and well. Below are ten tips to keep your marriage on track when you have a child with ADHD in the mix.

10 Tips for Improving your Marriage 

1. ** Remove yourself emotionally** from the child-related problems at hand and focus on your partner. Too often, we get sucked up in the daily dramas of raising our very challenging children and forget the emotional needs of our partners and ourselves. One way to help do this is to think back to the early days of your courtship and marriage and to re-live the feelings you had and what drew you to your partner in the first place.

2. Spend time with your spouse with the understanding that there will be NO discussion of the children. The focus is only on each other.

3.Improve communication skills. After a long day at work or a full day of caring for children at home, the temptation is to “dump” all of your frustrations on your partner at the end of the day. Instead, write down your aggravations as an emotional release, then discuss them with your partner after you’ve each had time to settle down, had dinner and feel emotionally ready to handle this. By then, some of the intensity may decrease, making it easier to problem solve without feeling overwhelmed with emotions.

4. Never finger point and accuse. State the issue at hand as a problem so as not to alienate your spouse. For example, instead of shrieking to your husband that he doesn’t do enough to help you with your son’s homework, state it as a problem needing to be solved, i.e.: “Danny gets overwhelmed with his homework after putting all of his energy into getting through a day at school. After dealing with the school staff and Danny’s explosive behaviors when he comes home, my patience is gone and we’re at each others’ throats. Every day is a battle ground and we both lose. What do you think we can do to make homework time less stressful?”

5. Make sure that your child’s ADHD treatment is optimal. If he’s on medication, make sure the dosage and type is best suited for his flavor of ADHD. If he’s having trouble in school, discuss your concerns with school staff and see if he qualifies for special help. If his behavior is a problem, seek out professional counseling or consult with the school psychologist.

6. Since ADHD is highly genetic,there’s a good chance that either parent might have undiagnosed and untreated ADHD. If you see symptoms, get yourself or your spouse evaluated and treated Raising challenging children also takes a toll on ones’ self-esteem and confidence, often causing anxiety and depression. If you or your spouse is struggling, consider counseling to help with the emotions and difficulties you are dealing with. “Special” families have more on their plate and an extra hand in the way of professional support can do wonders for the entire family.

7. Seek out support groups such as CHADD, where you and your spouse can go for education and help. Hearing other parents share similar problems can often help you in dealing with yours, while learning new strategies to help your marriage survive. Find the closest CHADD chapter to you by visiting their website at .

8. Dear Abby may not always have been right, but heed her advice about getting marriage counseling when things seem to be going off course. Make sure you find someone who understands the challenges of raising children with ADHD and/or other special needs.

9. Take time away with your spouse sans the kids. Your relationship needs to be nurtured and taking vacations, even if for just a day or two, is imperative in keeping your love alive.

10. Take parenting classes. If you can help keep your child on an even keel, there will be less stress in the family and marriage. You and your spouse need to work as a team and having the right tools to improve your parenting skills will go a long way in improving family life.

What works for you? Please share in the Comment section below.