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10 Things You Didn’t Know About Me

Posted on April 03, 2018

Little Terry

Me, with the chicken pox, age 5

When I present on ADHD throughout the country, I always feel an intimacy between my attendees and me. I think part of that is due to my being pretty open about my own ADD related challenges. My goal has always been to normalize as much as possible, the ADD symptoms many of us share. When I explain that I can’t keep track of papers or that my upstairs is, well…at times a mighty mess…it helps others to feel they aren’t alone!

So today, I’d like to share with you a few facts about me that you might not have known. Enjoy!

  1. I most probably have a math disability. I still count on my fingers. You too?
  1. I cannot remember the names of people I’ve met even if I turn around 20 seconds later and see them- SMILING at me, of course. So if you say hi to me and my face is blank, please don’t be upset with me.
  1. I have never made a turkey. Timing it properly escapes me. I’d rather not attempt it than accidentally poison my family.
  1. I am a HUGE dog lover and have a Portuguese Water Dog (Harper) and a Cockapoo (Elliott).
  1. I have written hundreds of songs but only completed maybe…5. My ADD prevents me from completing them. Wanna hear one? It’s at http://youtu.be/ta9qzz83T8I
  1. I cannot iron. I put in more creases than I take out.
  1. I cannot watch TV. I fall asleep within 10 minutes. That’s why TV works great for my insomnia. Oh, the only channels I watch are HGTV (House Hunters International!) and oddly enough, the Cooking Channel (which to me is more like watching a magic show).
  1. I get over the top angry if someone starts talking to me while I’m on the phone. I simply cannot hear two things at once and trying to screen out one voice is impossible.
  1. My sense of smell is so acute; I once woke up in the middle of the night certain a skunk sprayed our dog (not sure how- she was sleeping on our bed). Later that morning, I found out there was a dead skunk a mile from the house.

10. I am addicted to chocolate. That’s nothing surprising since so many of us are, so here are a few more bonus facts to make up for it:

 

  • I refuse to wear high heels. I can’t afford to break any more bones. Heels are evil.
  • My sensory issues are pretty significant. Normal talking to my ears often sounds like yelling.
  • I hate talking on the phone. I have to see your mouth in order to stay connected. Otherwise, I’m off mentally hiking in Switzerland, inventing a new gadget or playing Bejeweled on the computer.
  • I’ve been married over 39 years. The secret to our successful marriage? Humor. I’m married to the funniest man alive.
  • I hate clothes shopping.
  • I’m completely obsessed with The Beatles and almost met Paul McCartney last summer. Long story. UPDATE: I did meet Paul in 2016. See it on video at https://youtu.be/foqhv-fbYfs
  • I once screwed up my banking account so badly from not balancing it correctly; I closed it to open up a new one. Ok, that’s not entirely true- I’ve done it more than once.
  • I cannot watch movies with any blood, gore or frightening scenes. They’re simply too intense.
  • I typically wear clothes a size larger (when I’m home and can get away with it) and it all must be cotton or I go out of my mind. Usually, there’s a cotton Tshirt separating my skin from my clothes. I’m happiest wearing baggy jeans or shorts and an oversized cotton T. And tennies, of course.
  • I’m an established artist and have had my paintings shown throughout the country. Many of us with ADD seem to have had many avocations, careers, jobs, etc.

I think the “take home” message here is that we all have our challenges, but it’s important to remember our strengths, too. What do you want to share about yourself? What are you great at? What stumps you? Share them in my “Comment” section below.

 

 


Contest Winners Announced!

Posted on March 16, 2018

Enter to win

There were many of you who entered my contest but look who won!

1st Place: Emily B

Emily wins my eWorkbook BUNDLE, which includes the Clutter Crusher Toolkit, Medical Records Toolkit, and the Space Organizer Toolkit. That’s THREE eWorkbooks!

2nd Place: Kine S

Kine wins my Clutter Crusher Toolkit eWorkbook

Winners will be notified this week by email.

Want another shot at winning a prize? Join my newsletter for future announcements (and other great things- like my bi-weekly newsletter with all sorts of helpful tips, resources, and articles by yours truly.

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Yes, You CAN Advocate for Yourself: Here are Some Tips, by Sandy Maynard, MS

Posted on March 02, 2018

Sandy Maynard Brighter

 

Please enjoy this guest article, written by Sandy Maynard, MS, a pioneer in the field of ADHD coaching and a friend for many years. 

Many of us have a really tough time standing up for ourselves and making sure our ADD needs are met. Sandy gives us some insight into how she manages her self-advocacy skills. Enjoy!

 

Yes, You CAN Advocate for Yourself: Here are Some Tips

 

In general, I believe that women have a harder time than men when advocating for themselves. As someone who helps others speak up for themselves, I have to ‘walk the talk’ myself and often it’s not that easy. I worry about sounding ‘bossy’ or ‘controlling’, but find that if I am gentle and kind when doing so, it is well received.   One of the biggest challenges for me is my own processing speed when calling technical support for help. I often have to interrupt the technician giving me directions and request that they slow down and repeat instructions. Frequently I need to take notes, so I say, “I’m taking notes for future reference. Would you repeat what you just said a little slower?” Each time I interrupt, I make sure I thank them for their patience.

It’s embarrassing to admit, but I also can’t pay attention to my GPS, read road signs, and change lanes while others are talking to me when driving on unfamiliar roads. I say to others before heading out on a trip, “I’m not familiar with the route we are taking today, so my full attention is going to be on the road. And when the GPS is telling me there is a turn coming up, I’m afraid that I wont be much of a conversationalist, especially if I have to merge into a different lane.”

We live in a busy world where it seems like everyone is rushing and wants you to hurry and get out of their way, especially in a grocery store check-out line. Over the years I can’t tell you how many credit cards I’ve lost because I felt rushed by the cashier who has starting ringing up the next order before I’ve put my credit card back in my wallet where it belongs. I no longer scurry just because someone else is in a hurry. I stand my ground firmly and take as much time as I need to put my card away, make sure I have my phone if I laid it on the counter, and that my backpack is zipped so nothing falls out.

Self-advocacy skills are something that we all need to manage our ADHD well. I have found that I don’t need to be bossy or loud to advocate well for what I need in order to manage my own ADHD; I just need to identify what my needs are and ask for what I need.

 

Sandy Maynard, MS is a pioneer in the field of ADHD coaching and has established herself as one of the country’s preeminent coaches. She specializes in time management and organization and is a regular contributor to ADDitude magazine. Sandy recently moved to Chelsea, MA and now provides coaching and organizing services in the Greater Boston area.

Sandy Maynard, MS

202.486.8901

sandy@sandymaynard.com

www.sandymaynard.com

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Contest! Win a Bundle of my eWorkbooks on Organizing Your Home

Posted on March 02, 2018

Enter to win

 

Who wants to win a prize?? Who doesn’t??

Listen up: Go to my contest page ahttp://bit.ly/2EJKRw7 or click on the graphic above to enter my contest, which starts NOW. All you need to do is answer one short (easy) question and I will draw two winners who answer it correctly.

* PRIZES *

1. FIRST PRIZE: My eWorkbook bundle, which includes the Clutter Crusher Toolkit, Medical Records Toolkit, and the Space Organizer Toolkit. That’s THREE eWorkbooks!

2. SECOND PRIZE: My Clutter Crusher Toolkit eWorkbook.

Click HERE to enter! 

Good luck to all!

(contest ends March 15. One entry per person).

 

 


Join me on Dr. Ned Hallowell’s Podcast: Parts 1 and 2 on Women with ADHD

Posted on February 21, 2018

Terry Matlen Dr Ned Hallowell

My dear friend, Dr. Ned Hallowell, invited me as his guest two weeks in a row, on his fabulous podcast,Distraction“, where we talked about Women with ADHD and answered listeners’ questions.

Click here for Part 1:  http://i.crnradio.com/s2ep37486
Click here for Part 2:
http://i.crnradio.com/s2ep4c3e4

What did we talk about?

Part 1: Hormones, toxic relationships, social isolation and much more, including lots of Q/A.

Part 2:
Diagnosis, depression, migraines, estrogen levels, executive function, chemotherapy, and heightened sensitivities.

…..and more Q/A!

WHEN? Anytime!
WHERE?
Online on Ned’s Distraction Podcast.

Click the links below to listen:

Part l:  http://i.crnradio.com/s2ep37486
Part 2: 
http://i.crnradio.com/s2ep4c3e4



Moms with ADHD Reveal Lessons They’ve Learned in Handling Parenting Challenges

Posted on February 20, 2018

momKids

 

Often, I’m interviewed for articles at PsychCentral.com. This latest one talks about parenting issues when mom has ADHD:

You’re a mom who has ADHD, and you’re in the thick of mothering. Maybe you’re in the thick of toddlerhood, besieged by big tantrums and bleary-eyed after one-too-many sleepless nights. Maybe you’re in the thick of adolescence, trying to traverse schedules and emotional roller coasters. Maybe you have several kids, and find yourself frustrated and stressed out over all the logistics.

Maybe none of the above describes your situation. But you still feel utterly inadequate and unsure and panicked that you’re parenting all wrong.

You’re not alone.

Continue reading at the PsychCentral site HERE



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Posted on February 17, 2018

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Join me on Dr. Ned Hallowell’s Podcast on Women with ADHD!

Posted on February 13, 2018

Terry Matlen Dr Ned Hallowell

Join me on Dr. Ned Hallowell’s podcast, “Distraction!”

 

My dear friend, Dr. Ned Hallowell, recently invited me to chat with him and answer (excellent) questions from women with ADHD.

What did we talk about? In the first of two series, we chatted and answered questions, including:

  • How women’s changing hormones affect ADHD symptoms
  • Why some women with ADHD find themselves in toxic “train wreck” relationships
  • Why some women are isolated socially and what you can do about it

…..and more!

WHEN? Anytime!
WHERE? Online on Ned’s “Distraction” Podcast.

Click HERE to listen.

 

 


The 2018 ADHD WOMEN’S PALOOZA HAS STARTED! FEB 5-10. Read This!

Posted on February 05, 2018

 

 

Palooza Long Banner

 

Want to be part of changing the way the world looks at women with ADHD? You can! My colleague and co-founder of the Palooza, Linda Roggli, has developed a ground-breaking online event and you are invited!  

The Third Annual ADHD Women’s Palooza begins February 5th, and runs through February 10, 2018. It will be an extraordinary week of insight and answers exclusively for women with ADHD, presented by 33 ADHD Legends and Luminaries including: Dr. Ned Hallowell, Sari Solden, Dr. Thomas E. Brown, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, and many more…

Don’t miss my session! 

What: Scratchy, Loud, Bright, Tight: Sensory Overload & ADHD

When: Wednesday, Feb. 7 at 12 noon EST.

Find out more and  register here!