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My Favorite ADD Friendly Wallet for Women

Posted on April 06, 2017

My Favorite Wallet!



SkinnyWalletYikes- somehow, the red skinny wallet I shared disappeared from my webpage! So here it is- I have used it for years and it still doesn’t show any trace of wear or tear.

You can get yours HERE.




Organizing Resources to Help with the Clutter

Posted on April 06, 2017


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Terry’s Top Picks for ADHD Resources

Posted on April 02, 2017

I’m always searching for products that will help you with your ADHD. Below are some ideas that I either use myself or that have caught my eye. Check out the blue Boogie Board, for example- that sits on my counter where I keep notes to my family, reminders on what I need to buy at the grocery store, etc.

We’re using Tile Mate here at the Matlen residence. So far, we’ve found iPhones, chargers and more. See what catches your eye, below.

Still need help implementing these organizing tools? Join me at the Queens of Distraction where we work as a team- online- to get things done. Clutter- be gone!

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ADHD Resources You’ll Love

Posted on March 30, 2017

This Fidget will Calm you and your ADHD Down

Posted on March 24, 2017



Calm Down!? This will Help! 

Occasionally, I like to share interesting and helpful resources that I think will be of value to my readers. This is one of them!

You know how much I love fidgets and how they help with stress, anxiety and taming hyperactivity/impulsivity, allowing you (or your child) to focus better. Well, I just discovered this brand new fidget: the Stress Fidget Cube. The company is offering a special introductory offer to my readers (you): 5% discount and free shipping on all orders.

** Use coupon code WINADD when ordering to get your discount and free shipping. 

Check it out at .

Are you a Freezer Hoarder? How to Organize your Freezer!

Posted on March 23, 2017



About a week ago, we lost our power. With temperatures going down into the teens, it wasn’t a fun situation to be in. From experience of living in Michigan almost all my life, I knew this one could be a tortuous situation lasting days. And it did. Once power came back on, we were faced with a fridge and freezer filled with food that had to be tossed. I’m not a fan of food poisoning and didn’t want to take any chances- it all had to go.

Imagine my surprise (not) when I found packages in the freezer labeled 2015- and some even older than that. Time to roll up my sleeves. But as I thought more about this, I realized that by being a freezer hoarder, I had used up precious space for items I’d probably never re-heat or cook. I mean- “Cowboy Lasagna?” Complete with crystals in the plastic baggie!

So…I started my research and found some great ideas online. Some are not ADD friendly, so don’t even attempt the tips that you know won’t work for you. But here are some good ones: Organize Your Freezer.

For starters, try dry erase crayons to label your containers. You can find them here.

Don’t wait until you can’t fit more food into your freezer or if you have a power outage. Clear out the unneeded stuff today! Need help getting motivated? Join me and the queens at the Queens of Distraction! Spring special savings end soon! Join me today at

Are You Too Sensitive?

Posted on March 05, 2017



Whenever my newsletter goes out, a small handful of people cancel their subscription. (Please don’t get any ideas!) In the unsubscribe box, I encourage my readers to tell me why they’ve decided to leave, as their comments help me to improve my newsletters. Recently, as I was looking over their responses, most said they simply didn’t have time to read a newsletter. But then, one popped out and slapped me in the face. It said: “Too long-winded with nothing helpful to say.” 

As I cringed, I wanted right then and there to shut down my newsletter. It felt like a knife through the heart. But then I scraped myself off the floor and began to think. Why would that one little comment affect me so deeply? I’ve been in this field for over 20 years, published two books, present throughout the country… yet I can still feel shattered when I read or hear criticisms about myself.

I don’t think I’m alone. People with ADD, especially, have tender, sensitive hearts. Many of us have heard criticisms from the day we started Kindergarten (Susie doesn’t pay attention. Emily won’t share her toys, etc.). And many more of us heard things for many years after that from parents, teachers, partners, friends, bosses and others who reprimanded us for one ADD related behavior after another.

As adults, we carry those hurtful words with us into our marriage, our jobs and professions and into our parenting roles, as well:


  • You talk too much
  • You don’t listen to me
  • Your room/house/office is a mess
  • Why don’t you just try harder? 


Dr. William Dodson talks about something he calls “Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria”- a perception- not necessarily the reality- that a person has been rejected, teased, or criticized by important people in their lives.

He talked more about this in depth at the recent ADHD Women’s Palooza ( and in an ADDitude Magazine article.

In a nutshell, he feels this is a common piece seen in ADHD. And I agree. But why? Dodson suggests this is part of how an ADHD brain work. But to take it a bit further…..

We aren’t just too sensitive; we are re-acting to statements and criticisms we’ve heard all of our lives. Add to that a real sensitivity I do see in many with ADHD: being unusually compassionate to others, plus having hypersensitivities to stimuli (including emotional)…and we’re headed for constant crashes like I had with the newsletter comment.

What we can do to counteract these experiences is to remember where we are most vulnerable. Did you hear hurtful things about your ADD related behaviors when you were growing up? Pinpoint what those comments were and see how they might still affect you now, as an adult.

Focus on your strengths, your abilities. I don’t know how to roast a turkey, but I can play a bass guitar.

And listen to the criticisms to see if there might be something you might learn from them instead of reacting so deeply. In my case, this woman was right: my newsletters do tend to be a bit wordy. So this time, I will end here at 400 words instead of 1400+. <smile>

Dr. Dodson also suggests medication for extreme cases.

What do you think? Do you feel you are over-sensitive at times? Why? How do you deal with that? Share your thoughts in the Comment section below.



Contest! ADHD Women’s Palooza Feb. 6-11. Win Prizes if you Enter Now!

Posted on February 02, 2017



Contest! Win your way into the ADHD Palooza, the week-long online event for women with ADHD Feb. 6-11, 2017! Learn from the top ADHD experts in the world: Sari Solden, Dr. Ned Hallowell, Dr. Russell Barkley, Dr. Ellen Littman, Dr. John Ratey, and many more.

The event is free if you attend live, but if you can’t or just want to own every single session, you can win:

1st prize: The Pink Ticket event happening Saturday, Feb. 11. Connect with other women with ADHD and hang out with me, Terry Matlen, and Linda Roggli- ADHD experts/ authors and co-creaters of the Palooza.

Prize includes the Encore Package (all 36 sessions for you to own and enjoy- ($147 value).

2nd prize: The entire Encore Package ($97 value).


How to enter:

1. Simply register for the Palooza (it’s free!) at

2. “Like” my ADD Consults page at

3. Find the contest announcement post at the top of that page. “Like” and share it.


Contest ends Feb. 10, so “like” and share today. Good luck to all! 

Not interested in the contest but just want to attend the event? (there is no charge!)- then register today at

See you there!



Join my Queens of Distraction and Toss your Clutter to the Curb – 20% off

Posted on January 16, 2017




      Work with me online in a secret, exclusive private Facebook page to get rid of your clutter!

  • Paper piles
  • Closets
  • Desks
  • Getting to work on time
  • Filing……

We do it all, as a group. And we have fun. So join me today at 20% off my membership fee!

How to Manage ADHD and Perfectionism

Posted on January 07, 2017

Woman carefully polishing wine glass


Does your need for perfectionism paralyze you to the point of not being able to start a project, let alone finish it?

What’s going on with all this? Is it the fear of making a mistake, thus avoiding the whole thing altogether? Why is there so much anxiety about this? Why do we hold ourselves to a higher standard than others?

My guess is that when confronted with a task or project, we freeze because to us, it represents another potential failure and lord knows, we’ve had enough to last more than a lifetime. And guess what? Many of those “failures” are perceived ones- not actual ones. We hold in our heads the idea (ideal?) of perfection: a home where everything is in its place- no piles of stuff taking over the dining room table. No clean clothes still sitting in laundry baskets on our bedroom floors. No dishes sitting for two days or two weeks in the sink.

The idea of jumping in and taking care of such tasks can be terrifying (and WE with ADD “get” this, whereas those without…well…they usually scratch their heads and wonder what all the fuss is about. But why do we care so deeply?).

It’s this black and white thinking: we think we HAVE to have perfection in how we manage our chores. And we question our ability to accomplish this “perfection”.


What do we do about it?


We have to change our expectations of ourselves, of our homes, offices, desks, craft rooms, basements, cars, and most of all, our brains. We are not wired the same as neurotypicals, but that doesn’t make us any less able, less intelligent, less creative. In fact, in my 20 years of working with ADHD adults, I see more creativity than anywhere else.


Here’s my suggestion:


When you come nose to nose with a task that you’re avoiding, dreading and fearing, don’t look at the final outcome as perfection. Look at it as a work in progress.

Can you spend just 10 minutes on one task that has been on the back burner of your brain, making you feel crappy about yourself?

I invite you to post briefly what that task is, and how you plan to get started on it. Post your plan in the Comment section below.

You can do it. I’ll be looking over your shoulder, gently encouraging you, too.

Need help? Well, that’s what I’m here for! Join me and the Queens of Distraction and we’ll help you get started AND see you through. Join today at my New Year’s Special pricing (20% off): .