Today’s article is from the archives. I’m sharing it again because frankly, I am soooo tired of hearing and reading misinformation, myths, and outright lies about what ADHD is.
I’d suggest you print this out and keep it on hand. Maybe even come up with some helpful (not mean) retorts that should be, if you can keep your rage under control, informational.
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10 Big Fat Lies about ADHD
I’ve been around a loooong time in the ADD world and have worked hard to help, support, and educate those with ADD as well as their families, friends, teachers, bosses and more. Yet, the amount of ADD misperception that still lives in this world confounds me.
Here are 10 misconceptions that are still alive and (not) well:
- You can’t have ADD! You’re married with kids and have a great job!
- You can’t have ADD! You have two college degrees!
- You can’t have ADD! You can watch TV/work on the computer (fill in the blanks) for hours and be fully focused!
- You can’t have ADD! You’re a great cook!
- You can’t have ADD! Your desk/home/office is tidy!
- You can’t have ADD! You like to read!
- You can’t have ADD! You’re not hyper!
- You can’t have ADD! You’re too smart.
- You can’t have ADD! You look so…together!
- You can’t have ADD! You have lots of friends!
The truth is, you can do all of these things very well, even with ADD. But what the outsider does not see is how HARD we work at the things that come easy and naturally to others.
To do many of the things above, we exert more energy than most because of our distractibility, inattention, impulsivity, fear of boredom, and more.
Then we hit the sack, and our bodies- burned out from a day of running uphill- collapse, but our brains continue raging down the railroad track into ever- lasting loops of thoughts, worries, ruminations.
What about you? What naïve comments have you heard over the years about your ADD? How do/did you respond?
Please leave your comment in the comment section, below.
Terry’s Top Hits
Rick Green of TotallyADD had me on recently as his guest, where I spoke on the topic of Women with ADHD, Hormones, and Memory.
It’s a fine 10 minutes’ worth of conversation, but to hear the interview in its entirety, become a TotallyADD patron at https://www.patreon.com/TotallyADD and you’ll get access to all his videos and much more.
Terry’s Top Picks
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ADHD Top Reads
This one is flying off the shelf!
My friends, Drs. Ned Hallowell and John Ratey blew this one out of the park. These two started it all with their first book, Driven to Distraction. Now, they return with this gem: ADHD 2.0!
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* Like this article? I write about all kinds of ADHD experiences here on my website in the blog section, and if they spark something in you, talk to me! I offer online consultations for men and women with ADHD.
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