I have been having a blast with the Queens of Distraction, my sweet online group of lovely, compassionate women with ADD who are working hard at getting untangled from their clutter, pushing themselves to start projects that have been on the back burner before stoves were even invented, and watching them gleefully check off their to-do boxes.
I’m watching in awe as they clear off their desks, pay bills, de-clutter dining room tables so meals can finally be served, making long over-due doctor’s appointments and oh…so much more.
What is striking about the Queens is something I see in most women with ADD: super sensitivity, kindness, a great sense of humor and a deep awareness of their shortcomings. There’s also a tenacity that matches no other, plus a sprinkle of quirkiness that makes them, oh…so lovable and fun to be around.
In all the years of working with women with ADD, I’m struck by the spark, the “something” that makes me know almost immediately that yes- that person probably has ADD. In fact, when I was at a party the other night, I was practically cornered by women who had or thought they might have- ADD. The energy, the sparkle in their eye, the unabashed expression of ideas and feelings. What is that unique characteristic we all seem to share? That draws us to each other like glue?
I’d love to hear your opinion on what makes you unique- does your ADD enhance your personality? Or is it a brick wall that stops you cold from moving forward? Or both?
Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.
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Having ADD/ADHD enables me to start a conversation with anyone which often leads to a new acquaintance, usually someone with ADD themselves or with a family member who has it. It also locks me inside some days when the thought of socializing is unbearable. Thankfully I’m out starting conversations more often than staring at the door. It’s a balancing act daily.
That SOOOO describes me too Donna!!! When I’m “on”…I’m great…when I’m not “on”…I am a hermit! I’d say overall it’s been an incredible asset to me in many ways…but yes the struggles are many!
I believe ADHD definitely does enhance my personality. My very wise younger brother, who also has ADHD, tells me it that ADHD contributes greatly to who I am: my energy, my “fun,” my positive upbeat nature and spontaneity. But having said that, I do believe I would like to know what life would have been like for me with a more efficiently-operating frontal lobe…
Oh, yes; I am known for my rapid humorous responses, my goofiness, and my energy…as I’ve gotten older, though, I lack confidence in large groups, especially. I think I operate on two speeds: introverted, and all systems go. ADD is fun, but separates you from the pack. I’m always the one who doesn’t join in a big conversational group..either that, or I interrupt them and feel like a dork.
Sarah, you’ve said it for me. I’m 68, still pretty lively but none of my friends have the energy or interest in doing spontaneous or even planned activities any more
I need some new friends but things are not clicking in that area. I probably try too hard when I meet someone new and never hear from them. I can go days without a text or a call from a friend. Meanwhile. I feel mired in my clutter, for all my efforts to clear stuff out. I end up creating more piles and bags to donate/sell. Damn the resale stores that send me away with most of the items I thought they could sell still too nice to just donate. Lonely sleep too much. Procrastinate. Taxes. Meh! Thanks for sharing and listening. About to become one of Terry’s Queens!
I agree with the other ladies in being on and off with your personality. However, I think I have a pretty good perception of people and their actions. I think this a trait that some people call wise and I think we have it!