Virtual Online ADHD Awareness Expo

This is a very exciting event I want to share with all of you.

Discover the latest advances, strategies and alternative treatments from the world’s leading authorities, experts, and organizations as the ADD /ADHD Community comes together for the first ever ADHD Awareness Expo. Best of all- it’s FREE. September 12-18. Online.

Register HERE

Contest! Win a Prize!

Announcing the first ever Moms with ADD CONTEST!

I am offering two prizes to two lucky winners. Here’s how it works:

On or before September 14, I will randomly draw one name from my Moms with ADD newsletter subscriber list and post the winner’s name in the next issue of Moms with ADD.

On October 1, I will draw one name from only the subscribers who have joined my newsletter mailing list in the month of September. That winner will be announced in an October issue of Moms with ADD.

Prizes: Each winner will receive a book on ADHD, handpicked by yours truly.


If you already are a subscriber to my Moms with ADD newsletter, you don’t need to do a thing. Lucky you!

If you are NOT a subscriber, simply subscribe to my mailing list on my homepage at (on the far right).

Can’t get much more simple than that!
Good luck to all!

Rules and blah blah: Must be 18 or over. USA/Canada only. Winners give Terry Matlen/MomsWithADD permission to use their full names/location in future publications.

The Cyber World: Mother’s Motivational Ally

Today’s guest blog/article is written by my colleague and friend, Kevin Roberts. Kevin has just published a book, “Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap.” If you or someone you love has ADD, chances are, you can totally relate to the title of that book, alone. More about that later-

I’ve known Kevin for years and let me tell you- this man is brilliant. He is bilingual x 3 or 4 which I believe means he is polyglot (check Wikipedia). He’s an educator. He’s a coach. He’s a musician. He’s also probably the funniest person I’ve ever met. And the list goes on.

Underneath all of these incredible talents, is a man who really “gets” ADD and he has made it his mission to help people, especially students, succeed in spite of it. His humor, paired with intuition, understanding and humor, has taken many many young people forward in ways they never thought possible.

I’m excited to see that Kevin has published this book. It’s so new; my own copy has only just arrived at the doorstep, so watch for a review here soon.

In the meantime, Kevin has graciously written this article for my site and what a great time to post it- just as kids are returning to school! You, as moms, know how difficult it can be to get your child to turn off the computer, Wii, Game Boy, etc.

This article will give you some specific tools to help your own “cyber junkie.” And now…

The Cyber World: Mother’s Motivational Ally

By Kevin Roberts

I am not a mother, but I might as well be. I run study groups out of my home for ADHD kids and I am an adult with ADHD as well. I see 30-40 kids per week; most come over for 3-4 hours at a time. I have five computers available and video game consoles for break time. While these electronic amusements are powerful motivational carrots, they are also ripe ground for abuse.

I assess each child’s homework load upon arrival to my study groups, and, since almost all of them are cyber-oriented, we come up with a reasonable amount of work that must be completed before they can have a game or computer break, which is usually limited to 15-20 minutes. I use game and computer management tools to eliminate the need for monitoring. These tools are quite sophisticated nowadays. When the time’s up, the game shuts down! Like most ADHDers, I can easily fall into negativity; I take great pains with my ADHD students to make sure that I am not one more hyper-critical and nagging adult in their lives. Computer and game management devices help me a great deal in this pursuit. I recommend that all mothers (and fathers) make use of these tools. I have seen them transform families!

Given the enormous power of the cyber world, I also strongly suggest that mothers with cyber-oriented children come up with a behavioral modification plan. Link “screen time” with other behaviors you’d like to see. You need to come up with a system that links desired outcomes with the privilege of playing video games, or simply watching TV! You can use a spreadsheet, poster, or simply a piece of paper with desired behaviors on one side and rewards on the other. It is useful to make copies so you can have a new sheet at the beginning of each week. If you’re anything like me, it would also be good to get the support of a friend, preferably one who is high in follow-through. I find that I am great at starting innovative projects, but struggle to keep them going. Find a friend who is willing to check in with you a few times a week to see how things are going. DO NOT TRY TO CREATE CHANGE WITHOUT SUPPORT.

Read the rest of Kevin’s article HERE

Kevin Roberts is a recovering video game addict who runs support groups to help others struggling with cyber addiction get their lives back on track. He is a nationally recognized expert on video gaming addiction and a regular conference speaker. Roberts has a background in education and is the developer of a sixteen-module curriculum designed to give those with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), often a driving factor of video game and internet addiction, the skills they need to succeed. Cyber Junkie is his first book.

School Daze: Great Blog Post by Sari Solden

You have to read this. It really hits the nail on the head for those of us moms with ADD who dread school starting. Papers. Forms. New clothes. Schedules. Getting up early.

Read her post, School Daze, HERE

ADHD Medication Rules: Paying Attention To The Meds For Paying Attention

Over the last few years, I’ve gotten to know a remarkable man- a practicing child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist named Dr. Charles Parker- who runs the sites and

Dr. Parker and I have had a number of discussions about medications and the general misunderstanding many physicians have in prescribing meds for their ADHD patients. I’ve been following his blog and always come away learning something new or seeing things in a new perspective that I hadn’t understood before.

Dr. Parker has just released a very important Ebook that I think everyone needs to look at. It’s called “ADHD Medication Rules: Paying Attention To The Meds For Paying Attention” and it can be downloaded from his site as an eBook HERE .

He covers unique and interesting topics, including the various things folks with ADHD tend to avoid; whether it’s intimate relationships or starting/finishing projects.

But the part I really find fascinating is his approach to understanding one’s biology and how that affects the way medications work- or don’t work. Particularly interesting is his fabulous explanation of the therapeutic window.

Do yourself a favor. Download Dr. Parker’s eBook. It just might help to point you in the right direction for getting the proper help, especially when the treatment you’ve gotten in the past simply is not working for you- or your child.

Download his book here:

New Book by Dr. Russell Barkley

Taking Charge of Adult ADHD

“This book will surely become a classic. If you are an adult with ADHD, Dr. Barkley can help you make sense of your lifelong struggles and develop a clear roadmap for overcoming them. Stories and examples from others facing the same challenges bring Dr. Barkley’s ideas to life. I will certainly recommend this easy-to-read yet scientifically based book to everyone who comes through our adult ADHD clinic.”–J. Russell Ramsay, PhD,

Order your copy HERE

Procrastinating? Or Doing it- Your Choice

When you just can’t seem to get something done; when you keep putting it off and putting it off, you spend a lot of mental energy feeling bad about it.

What feels better? Ruminating over something you need to check off your to-do list? Or taking action and getting it done? You choose.

Sari Solden LIVE Broadcast Friday, July 30th

Finding Your Self with ADHD

Sari will be offering a free video broadcast tomorrow, July 30 from 12 noon- 12:30pm EST.

Write in LIVE or send your questions in advance to, and she will choose several to address during the broadcast.

This program is open to all visitors and members and will be saved and accessible from her site at – NO MEMBERSHIP REQUIRED!

A Filing System That Even Impresses Me!

I know, I know. You’ve tried everything to tame your papers. Well, a dear reader contacted me recently about this product- the FreedomFiler. She told me that it really works for her and hoped I’d pass this along. So that’s what I’m doing. I checked out their site and I have to say…I’m impressed!

Check it out HERE

Keep Quarreling Siblings from Driving You Nuts This Summer

I read an interesting article in the Detroit Free Press that quoted a psychologist friend/colleague of mine, Dr. Arthur Robin. Dr. Robin is a respected expert on ADHD. Though the article is not specific to ADHD, I thought you might find it helpful.

Read it HERE

How to Stop Burning Your Dinner

Do you put dinner in the oven only to forget it’s in there, thus burning your chicken, roast, turkey, etc?

I found this totally cool and helpful device. It’s a Digital Oven Thermometer with Remote Pager. Here are some of the features:

  • Wireless remote alerts you to when food is almost done and done
  • Functions as a baking/roasting thermometer and a timer
  • Temperature range 32 to 450 degrees F or 0 to 232 degrees C
  • Backlit for easy reading
  • Programmable thermometer

Check it out HERE

10 Expert Tips to Help Your ADHD Child

Recently, I was interviewed by Laurie Sanchez from about how to manage your ADHD child. My pal Rory Stern was also quoted in the piece, offering many helpful tips as well.

Read the article HERE then come back and share some of your own tips!

Is it Procrastination or is it Anxiety of the Unknown?

I’ve been working for months on re-designing and setting up my new home office- a space where I can work but also where I can retreat to in order to get away from the madness of everyday life. My objective was to create a practical work space while retaining a sense of tranquility and calm. In addition, the space had to double as a guest room for the occasional out-of-towner.

The work tables and cabinets have been purchased and assembled. The painters are long gone. There’s even a new sofa bed and recliner as well. I’ve spent days unpacking boxes and putting things away. Even the supply closet is looking pretty fine. But I’m stuck!

Getting stuck is nothing new, but I do find that analyzing WHY I’m stuck, often unlocks the key, allowing me to move forward. Often times, it’s simply the ADD “overwhelm”- a feeling you all are more than familiar with.

But in this case, the hardest work is now complete. So why is it nearly impossible to unpack those last few boxes?

I think I’ve figured it out. Because it’s happened to me many times before:

I’m afraid of finishing a project because then I’m faced with that sense of emptiness and the gnawing, anxiety-laden question of: WHAT DO I DO NEXT?

It’s facing that dark abyss– the not knowing what to tackle next. Not knowing which project at hand to work on next. Or worse, having TOO many projects and not knowing which one to choose.

Could procrastinating, then, serve a different function sometimes? Could it be a way to avoid making the NEXT decision? Not just the “where does it go?” decision, but, “now that I’m done, what do I do? Is it, in part, anxiety in disguise?

Does this ring true for you at times? Share your thoughts in the Comment section below.



Do you Daydream in the Shower? Bath Clock Keeps you on Track

Taking a shower, at least for me and many I know with ADHD, isn’t a simple grooming ritual. It’s a time to…

1. Brainstorm new ideas for decorating the living room.

2. Ruminate over what a co-worker said the day before and wondering why the words still sting.

3. Reminisce being a little girl, hunting for 4 leaf clovers, with no other care in the world.

4. Mentally prepare dinner

5. Suddenly become incredibly creative: planning a new painting, writing a new song, screenplay, poem <fill in the blank>

6. Worry about the kids

7. Remember all the bills that have yet to be paid

8. Simply daydream

…which of course, causes us to lose sight of the time and find ourselves yet again late for work, getting the kids off to school, etc.

I found a solution to the problem. It’s a clock that you put in the shower! You can keep daydreaming, yes, but the clock will remind you when to stop. Check it out HERE.

4 ADD Friendly Recipes

1. 15 Minute Turkey and Rice Dinner

Ready In: 15 minutes

Servings: 4

Ingredients: 1 can cream of chicken soup 1 1/2 cups water 1/4 tsp. each paprika and pepper 2 cups uncooked Minute White Rice 2 cups cooked turkey or chicken 2 cups cooked vegetables (carrots, green beans, peas)

Directions: Mix soup, water, paprika and pepper in skillet. Heat to a boil. Stir in rice, turkey and vegetables. Cook over low heat 5 min. or until done.

2. 5 Minute Burrito Wraps

Ready In: 15 minutes Servings: 6

Ingredients: 1 can (11 1/4 ounces) Campbell’s Condensed Fiesta Chili Beef Soup 6 flour tortillas (8-inch) Shredded Cheddar Cheese

Directions: Spoon 2 tablespoons soup down center of each tortilla. Top with cheese. Fold tortilla around filling. Place seam-side down on microwave-saft plate and microwave on High 2 minutes or until hot.

3. Easy Tuna Dinner

Ready In: 15 minutes

Ingredients: 1 package (10 oz.) frozen peas 1-1/4 cups water 1 can condensed Cheddar cheese soup 1 can tuna (drained and flaked) 1 chicken bouillon cube 1/4 tsp. pepper 1-1/2 cup Minute rice

Directions: Bring peas, water, soup, tuna, bouillon cube and pepper to full boil in a large saucepan. Stir in rice. Cover; remove from heat. Let stand 5 minutes. Fluff with fork.

4. Easy Fettucine Alfredo

Ready In: 30 minutes

Servings: 4

Ingredients: 8 ounces fettucine 1 tablespoon olive oil 1 cup evaporated skim milk 1/3 cup fresh Parmesan cheese, shredded 1/2 teaspoon dried basil juice from 1/2 of a lemon dash ground black pepper additional fresh parmesan cheese, shredded fresh basil

Directions: Cook pasta according to package directions. Drain; immediately return to pan. Add olive oil; toss to coat. Add evaporated milk, 1/3 cup Parmesan cheese, dried basil, lemon juice, and pepper. Cook over medium-high heat until bubbly, stirring constantly. Top with additional Parmesan cheese and fresh basil.

Do you have some ADD Friendly recipes you’d like to share? Post them in the ADD Friendly Recipe thread, here, in the Forums.

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