In my last post, I talked about what NOT to do to prepare for the holidays if you have ADHD. One of my readers responded that it was refreshing to read a list of what NOT to do instead of what TO do, because she, as most of us, are overwhelmed with all the things we need to do but find hard to accomplish. That ADHD just keeps getting in the way.
So to expand on the idea of what NOT to do, in general, here is my list.
What NOT To Do If You Have ADHD
1. Do not compare your house, your family or yourself with anyone else. Of course, that’s something everyone should follow. But for those of us with ADHD, it’s too easy to feel our shortcomings by comparing ourselves with others.
2. Do not feel badly about “messing up.” Accept that our lives will be more challenging in general. Those without ADHD typically aren’t on high alert, worrying about getting to places on time, remembering names, meal preparation, having challenging children, etc. Give yourselves a break and relax a bit.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
4. Do not get stuck in a bad job, marriage, toxic friendship, etc.
5. Do not blame your ADHD for all of your personal shortcomings. ADD is an explanation; not an excuse.
6. Do not stick with your current meds, therapist or doctors if they aren’t helping you. It can take quite a long time to find the right med/combo. Don’t give up!
7. Do not let your children wear white.
8. Do not forget about your own needs. You work so hard, harder than most, to get through a normal day. Allow plenty of down time, trips away from the kids, and whatever else it takes to replenish and renew.
9. Do not try to be someone without ADHD. You will battle disorganization, time management challenges, clutter, and more. As Sari Solden wonderfully states, “embrace your ADHD.”
10. Do not shop at the mall the week of Christmas. You are asking to fry all of your senses. Instead, do your shopping online.
Ok, who can add to the list?