Why Dr. Gabor Mate’s Work is So Important: The Myth of Normal

Over twenty years ago, I read Gabor’s first book, “Scattered and was completely blown away by his take on ADHD. It was unlike anything I’d ever read before. I was intrigued. ADHD, specifically, isn’t a genetic disorder? But rather, being born sensitive is….? And that is what can bring out ADHD and other mental distress? That there’s a connection between a *fragile* connection with the infant and mother and possibly having ADHD, substance abuse, anxiety, depression, and more?

These were not popular ideas at the time, let me tell you! And many of my readers today will probably email me with questions and opinions about all this. But he has valid points that are worth studying and understanding.

Back to that conference- at the time, I was on the ADDA (Attention Deficit Disorder Assoc.) board of directors, at a conference planning board meeting. I told the team- we must have this man present. His take on ADHD is fascinating and he needs to be heard. He accepted our invitation; we had lunch at the hotel, and we’ve been friends ever since. Over the years, he’s shared his incredible insights, experiences, and knowledge with me, which now includes topics beyond just ADHD.

When he emailed me some weeks ago that he was coming to Toronto for an author’s event, I had to go. I had wanted to visit family there, so this worked out perfectly.

Imagine my surprise when upon arriving in Toronto and heading back to my car to retrieve 20+ things I’d forgotten to take into the hotel, there he was at the door, waiting for a ride. <Synchronicity? There are close to 200 hotels in Toronto and 1440 minutes in a day>.

Ok, on with the more important part of the story.

Gabor has a new book out: The Myth of Normal, which I just received from Amazon. Gabor is now known and adored by millions- all over the world- for his work on trauma, addiction, mind/body, attachment, and much more.

The Myth of Normal” is currently ranked #5 on the New York Times Best Sellers list. I urge you to read it, along with his other books.

I went to his author’s event the next day to hear him and his son, Daniel, talk about trauma, parenting, ADHD, “mental illness”, social/political issues, body/mind and more- all covered in his book.

Some of my favorite Gabor Maté quotes:

“I believe that ADD can be better understood if we examine people’s lives, not only bits of DNA.”

“Trauma is not what happens to you, it’s what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.”

“The attempt to escape from pain, is what creates more pain.”

“The DSM defines attention deficit disorder by its external features, not by its emotional meaning in the lives of individual human beings.”

“I think normalcy is a myth. The idea that some people have pathology and the rest of us are normal is crude. There’s nothing about any mentally ill person—and it doesn’t matter what their diagnosis is—that I couldn’t recognize in myself. The reality is that, in every case, mental illness is an outcome of traumatic events. And by trauma I don’t mean dramatic events. There’s a difference.”

“Not why the addiction but why the pain.”

Get your copy of The Myth of Normal at https://amzn.to/3E0vrVy – I’m just starting to dig in and it’s exceptional.

He’s on his book tour, so see if he’s coming to a city near you: https://drgabormate.com/events/ or check out his online talks and programs.

Tip- great interviews on YouTube!

Familiar with his books, his work? Drop a comment below in the comment section.

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